Yeah, It Sucks Being a Grown-Up. Now Move Out!
I recently watched that movie Failure to Launch with Matthew McConaughey and she who shall not be named. The movie is about parents dealing with their adult children still living at home. They hire the “grotesquely liberal actress” to woo said men failing to launch from their parents home in order to lure them into adulthood.
Rassmussen reports “72% have grown children living with them or knows someone who does.” And in a telephone survey among American adults, “86% believe it is more common for grown children to live with their parents compared to 20 years ago.”
Ok, so we’ve established it has become more socially acceptable. Now look at this statistic.
Only 27% believe ”people who work harder generally make more money. Fifty-seven percent (57%) don’t believe that to be the case, while another 16% are undecided.”
What the hell is going on here?
I couldn’t WAIT to get out of my house! I left at 18. Don’t these “kids” understand there is something very rewarding about having a pizza delivered to your house and just eating the top off of it and no one yells at you?
Water running down a mountain side will always follow the path of least resistance. In other words, people will naturally take the easy way out if they are given an option. Because as it turns out, life is hard. But “hard” has its rewards. (And that can be taken all 9 kinds of ways to Sunday)
The New York Post had an article about a guy who graduated college and had a great job lined up in Manhattan with a decent starting salary and a steady long time girlfriend. Two years later, he’s still living at home with his parents. He commutes 45 minutes into the city. “I didn’t want to start a new job and move at the same time,” Siegel says. “It was too much transition, two huge changes at once.”
Oh, now I understand, that would just be SO hard! (To be pronounced in the “mocking dialect” of sarcasm.)
Ok princess, time for your big girl panties.
This is what frustrates the hell out of me. For years now this country has tip-toed around children in the name of political correctness and fairness. The only problem with that, is they miss the entire point that independence is a good thing. Instead we have been on a road of dependence for years. Dependence eventually establishes a victim mentality. Suddenly, people are “owed”, not given.
Have you ever heard the story of how mama eagles will begin to remove the soft cushy down in the nests so eventually it’s so uncomfortable the little baby eagles will stretch their wings and fly? It’s the same principle be it adult children staying at home and members of society who get “stuck” on government subsidy programs. If you do nothing but make it easy and comfortable for them, they are not going anywhere.
Once you establish dependence it’s ridiculously difficult to break.
Children have been removed from the game of life for years, with scoreless soccer games and “everybody gets an A for participation”. There’s nothing wrong with having to eat ramen noodles to experience the eventual victory of success. And yes, would it be much easier and tastier for your Mom to still cook for you every night? Of course it would. Is she going to wipe your ass too?
I understand parents wanting to help children and adult children sometimes needing that time to get on their feet. That is what family should be for. But this is a nation wide mentality that is dangerous in my opinion. It’s death to so many of the rich rewards life has to offer that can only be fully realized AFTER you’ve gone through the struggle.
It’s like the saying, the only way out is through. But we are establishing a nation of wussies who are afraid to put themselves out there and take necessary risks. Risk taking is what makes this country great!
I love reading the stories of failure by all the greats, like Edison, Disney, Jobs and more. You realize success is NEVER easy. But the journey establishes a character in people which is invaluable.
Even with Obamacare covering “children” up to age 26. In what universe is 26 still a child?
I learned a long time ago that when you burn the ships and there is no going back, you always find a way. And you accomplish things you could never in your wildest dreams imagine you could accomplish.
And I fully believe liberalism is at the heart of all this. Stop codling. Stop placating. Stop creating dependence. Because all of those rob our society of people achieving true greatness and the pursuit of happiness. Just because it isn’t easy, doesn’t mean it’s not valuable.